ADHD women and mothers need support and connection. And we often don’t get it.
You can list your flaws and mistakes. You know have to tear yourself down. You might even be good at maintaining a sense of humor about all of it.
Anyone else collect funny ADHD memes?
You’ve probably joined some of the Facebook groups. And you’ve probably experienced why that doesn’t really “connect” us.
ADHD in adult women is still widely unrecognized and misunderstood. Many of us are stumbling through life, not sure of how to handle our lives.
What is the one thing we all have in common?
We want to feel understood and accepted. And we want to feel less overwhelmed and burned out.
That’s my job. In the ADHD Enclave show you that a totally flawed, disorganized, flaky ADHD mom can build a life that she loves and a business that makes an impact.
It’s not easy, but it is possible.
I set out to create a safe space where we could talk openly about all of the issues.
The shame, anxiety, depression, overwhelm and chronic stress that is part of life with ADHD.
Whether you have been recently diagnosed, or you have been living in hiding for years, I invite you in.
If you’d rather listen, here is the podcast version:
support for ADHD women and mothers
The amount of information out there about ADHD is staggering. Some of it is great. Some of it is total crap.
One of the hardest parts of the diagnosis is going out and deciding what kind of treatment and support you need. There are so many options. Medication, therapy, books, coaching, blogs, and of course… social media.
Sometimes it seems like #ADHD is literally another hashtag people use to get followers.
I want to make getting accurate information about ADHD easier, so I sort through the noise and present only the best information from vetted experts in our community.
Information is arranged by topics and is easy to access and look through.
In the Enclave we learn together – through direct teaching, conversation, book clubs, and expert Q&A’s.
It’s easy to get down on yourself when you have ADHD.
Women with ADHD often criticize themselves for not living up to society’s expectations.
But as soon as you lose hope, you have lost everything. As James Ochoa (and my Grandma) both say, “This too shall pass.” And it always does.
Tomorrow is another day and another chance to try again.
Come to a group meeting and learn how to cultivate self-compassion.
Do you ever feel like nobody really “gets it?” Like you could talk a blue streak trying to explain this ADHD thing and not a single person really hears you?
Do you lose patience when you feel this way? I will confess that I get impatient with people when I feel like I am not being HEARD. Which is why big Facebook groups don’t work for me.
Whenever I perceive that another human is not “hearing” me, I freak out internally and it spills out as irritability.
We all want to be heard, but the real trick is making others feel heard. And I don’t mean literally hearing the words, I mean absorbing them.
As a community, we are focused on making sure everyone is acknowledge.
When my child was getting in trouble 3+ times per week, and I was fielding constant calls from the school, my community kept me sane.
I babbled on about it endlessly and they tolerated me.
My advice if you are going through something: find a supportive community and draw strength from other women.
It sounds so cheesy, but it is 100% the best form of therapy I have ever found. (And I have seen my fair share of therapists.)
Many women email me and confess how bad they feel about themselves. They use words like lazy, stupid, and ashamed.
Reading these emails is hard for me because I can feel the pain emanating from the computer screen.
I cannot recall a single time in my life when I felt confident. I’ve struggled with body image, doubting my own intelligence, and doubting my own sanity.
Have you ever felt totally confident?
ADHD is one of those conditions that really strips you of your confidence. We have to struggle every single day to do the same things everyone else does easily.
Through sharing your stories, and giving support to others, your confidence will return. It doesn’t happen all at once, but it happens.
It’s hard to make peace with ADHD.
I’m not sure I will ever feel completely at peace with it. But I know that empowered acceptance and humor have gone a long way for me.
In church they say, “Peace be with you.”
ADHD is always with you, you do not have a choice. But you can choose to be at peace.
Give yourself that gift. Heal your own emotional wounds in the company of like-minded women.
ADHD women and mothers need a sense of belonging
A soft place to land.
Creating this community has fulfilled that need for me and so many others.
As the social media landscape changes, we are going to need a place to so we can learn, grow, and connect with other women.
No, it’s not free. But going forward there will be options for tiered pricing and levels of membership. Email me for more info.
This is not just a bunch of anonymous posting. This is a new way of living and learning with ADHD. In the ADHD Enclave you are part of something bigger.